Today’s Real Mom Dilemma comes from Mama M and I know it is one alot of moms face – especially new moms. No one really tells you how/when you should get your little one on a schedule and what that schedule should be. Sure, there are countless books on the subject and your Pediatrician may offer some advice but it is really uncharted territory or at least it was for me and Mama M. I will let Mama M dive into her situation below but this is another one of those dilemmas in which there is no right or wrong answer as all babies are different and have different needs. If you are new to The Wise Baby, Real Mom Dilemmas are real problems that come from real moms. We post them here in hopes that our other mom readers can lend their advice and experience to help another mom out. Be sure to leave a comment on this post with your advice, experience or even issues of your own. If you have a dilemma you’d like to see featured, send it to me here (we never use real names!).
From Mama M… Hey Wise Moms, I am in need of some advice! I have an almost seven month old little boy, Dylan. Dylan has been a so called “easy baby”. He has always bee a good sleeper, good eater and generally not very fussy. I am a stay at home mom and have known it is important to get him on a schedule but I find myself with a seven month old not on a true day-time schedule. Night-time we have down pat – bath time, bottle, bed time and he sleeps through the night (12+ hours) most nights.
Day time = I feel like a failure! He definitely is wanting 2-3 naps a a day. One morning (9:30-10am), afternoon (1:00-1:30pm) and early evening (4:30-ish but only sometimes does he is not tired and content playing or just hanging out). I always put him down when he is tired/fussy but sometimes he sleeps for two hours sometimes only 30 minutes. Depending on the day we may run errands and he may sleep in the car or stroller and then not go down when we get home. I try to stay home around the “scheduled” times I mentioned above so he can get good naps but sometimes he doesn’t get the good nap or we have to be out and about at those times. I feel like I am cheating Dylan but not having him on some sort of set schedule but he is still a happy, easy baby so I am not sure if what I am doing is okay?
I guess my dilemma is – what do other moms do? I have read about parent and baby led schedules and I think some sort of hybrid sounds most realistic. I don’t want to be the kind of mom that has to pass on playdates and activities because of nap time but maybe that is what I should do? Any advice, tips or experiences would be really helpful to me! I just want to do what is best for Dylan and seem to be sort of at a loss for a good day time routine!
Thanks so much for listening and responding!