1. Wendy @ New Moms Talk says July 11, 2013

    Our family has a belief that our actions are a reflection of the situation at hand. So to provide insight into your dilemma, Mama J, a few questions come to mind:

    *Are there other toys or objects that your daughter likes to hold (or seems to have an attachment)?

    *Who provides the primary care to your daughter? (Having all people at all times on board with the plan of action is key.)

    *What are your hopes/goals/perceptions of her and her pacifier (and also your hub’s)? (Sometimes the adults in charge want something to happen because of their belief about it- or some societal perception.)

    From my experience, for some kids, going cold turkey works wonders. For others, a slight shifting is perfect. For some, it requires a silly story or something creative (reading a book about how a pacifier goes to some spot, the Pacifier Garden and turns into a new toy?) helps. For other children, they phase themselves off when they are ready and able to let go….even if it challenges the parents/guardians.

    Hope this helps.

    All the best to you and your daughter.

  2. Laura says July 11, 2013

    Hey Mama J, I have an almost three year old and started worrying about ditching the pacifier at about nineteen months too. I started phasing it out in public places and she really didn’t seems to care. She would sometimes fuss at first but then I would give her a sippy cup or other toy and she would forget she missed the pacifier. Over time, she started using it less and less at home and then by about 2 1/2 or so she didn’t really use them at night. So my advice would be to wait and see how your little one is reacting to phasing it out in public. If they are doing well with it then you can likely just start to phase it out at home, at night, etc. In the end, we “sent” our pacifiers to babies that needed them 😉 and she hasn’t looked back. Although, we have a three month old and sometimes she wants to grab his pacifier (sibling rivalry, right!?). Good luck!

  3. Josie says July 11, 2013

    This can be tough! As the other commenters have said, I think it depends on the child. My oldest had no issue and my youngest was a little more attached. For my youngest, we just were really patient and slowly started using it less. He would cry for it but sort of like the cry-it-out sleep training method we didn’t give in. Now I should say, we didn’t go cold turkey or do anything drastic. It was gradual, over time but we were consistent and didn’t give in (even when we wanted to and knew it would calm him down). Obviously, we did most of this “training” at home so we weren’t having major meltdowns in public! In the end I would say it took about four months and a few tears but he got there and is totally fine without it!


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