Today’s Real Mom Dilemma is a tough one and one that I am interested to hear all your Wise mom insight about. We have a little stranger anxiety over here and so far I have chalked it up to a stage. Mama K is worried that her little one’s stranger anxiety is not just a stage and she needs your help! I know you all will have some great tips for her. If you are new to The Wise Baby, Real Mom Dilemmas are real problems that come from real moms. We post them here in hopes that our other mom readers can lend their advice and experience to help another mom out. Be sure to leave a comment on this post with your advice, experience or even issues of your own. If you have a dilemma you’d like to see featured, send it to me here (we never use real names!).
Hi all, I have a sweet as can be 9 month old son, Frankie. Frankie is a a great baby and has been his whole life. I am a stay at home mom and both my family and in laws live nearby. We haven’t had a ton of outside babysitters for Frankie thanks in part to our helpful family and not to mention my husbands works a lot of nights and weekends which doesn’t allow for many date nights. That being said, at about 6 months Frankie started getting very, very wary of strangers. Even friends and extended family he has met multiple times before. I thought it was just a stage so didn’t worry too much. Now nearly three months later it has not gotten better and maybe gotten worse. If my husband or I leave the room he has a meltdown. He can be left with either of our parents, no problem however, these are people he has seen almost daily since his birth.
My dilemma is this… I know this isn’t good. And I know that we need to find a babysitter outside of our immediate family. One because they aren’t always available and two because I know this has to stop! I have some great recommendations on sitters and feel comfortable leaving him with these people but do not feel comfortable leaving him if that makes sense.
I really need to know how other moms have dealt with this stranger/separation anxiety phase (if I can still call it a phase). Or even if you haven’t dealt with it if you have heard any advice on the subject, I want to hear it! I am wimpy when it comes to the “cry it out answer” as in I prefer not to handle it that way. But if that is it, please tell me. I don’t want Frankie to be poorly adjusted and I am starting to feel like I should have done more earlier on.
Thank you so much, I really appreciate your help,