It has been awhile since we have had a Real Mom Dilemma and this one is a good one! It is funny because, I was just talking to a friend about this yesterday. Mama E is in a dilemma that many of us may be in or find ourselves in one of these days. I think she has alot of great points and I am
hopeful know that some of you Wise mamas can give her some advice! If you are new to The Wise Baby, Real Mom Dilemmas are real problems that come from real moms. We post them here in hopes that our other mom readers can lend their advice and experience to help another mom out. Be sure to leave a comment on this post with your advice, experience or even issues of your own. If you have a dilemma you’d like to see featured, send it to me here (we never use real names!).
Hi there, I am Mama “E”, mama to a beautiful and busy, thirteen month old boy, Ross. I just recentley found out that baby #2 is on the way! My husband and I are over the moon. Without going all TMI on everyone it is a surprise but not that much of a surprise. We are trying without trying – you know how that goes. Anyway, here is my dilemma:
We live in a sunny, beautiful and quaint two bedroom home in California that is approximately 2,000 SF. I love our house and for reasons other than my love we cannot and will not be moving before baby #2 arrives. Again, not to be TMI but the reasons are mostly financial in that two years ago we did extensive renovations to this home and can’t move/sell without taking a loss. Another bonus, my parents are less than two miles away! We currently use every inch of our house although Ross’ room is a good size (14′ x 16′). The new baby will be in our room for the first 3-4 months in a bassinet but after that – WHAT DO I DO?!? Haha, sorry of the all caps but I am sort of paniacking about this – how do a +/-22 month old and 3 month old share a room?!? My other more detailed questions/thoughts:
- How do I handle nap time?
- Do I get two cribs? OR would I move Ross to a big boy bed?
- Will the two kiddos just wake each other up all night long?!?
- Should I leave the new baby in our room until 4 – 6 months or until he/she is sleeping through the night consistently? (this seems like a yes to me).
- Should I turn my dining room into a second bedroom (I really don’t want to do this as our layout is very open concept so I don’t really even know if this is possible without major construction!)
I realize I have some time (approximately 6 months) but I need to hear how other moms have handled such a situation to put my mind at ease. I know, you all are probably saying – “well what were you thinking when you decided to have another baby?”. And my answer is, space was the lease of my concerns, I am in my late 30′s and we didn’t want to put off expanding our family because of space. I know people live in a lot less space than we do with 2 – 3 kids (hello New Yorkers – speak up!).
I sincerely appreciate any advice and am open to all suggestions – even turning my dining room into a second bedroom! Thanks Wise Moms!If you have a Real Mom Dilemma you would like to see posted, email us. Check out our past Real Mom Dilemma’s for some real life problems with real life answers.